The fabulous fours

As I sit planning my girls’ fifth birthday party I have been reflecting over the last year and age four. I can’t believe that in just a few short weeks we will have survived five years of being twin parents, and age four certainly was an interesting stage.

If you had asked me six months ago what I thought of age four, I would have had something very different to say. I would have said it’s tough, it’s hectic, it’s exhausting and the f*#^#ing fours are very real…

fabulousfour.jpgBUT, over the last few months life has become so much easier as a parent and so much more fun. I can honestly say that, so far, I think I’m enjoying the fours the most. My girls have really come into their own little personalities, they are so inquisitive about life, they are talkative and intelligent, and have the most amazing imagination and thirst for knowledge. Some of the questions they have about our planet, the universe, God, our bodies and how things work astounds me. Along with this, they are the best of friends and their bond is so special.

There is no doubt that we still have our difficult days, but as they get older they are finally learning to chill out a bit – the tantrums are few and far between and when things do get a bit out of hand, I’m more able, or perhaps now more equipped, to deal with it in a calm, loving manner. I guess it’s not only the girls who have chilled out a bit, but us as parents as well. This probably also has to do with the fact that both girls are finally sleeping through the whole night and our entire household is finally getting a full and decent night’s sleep, so we’re all in a much better mood these days. We’ve also seen how our hard work is starting to pay off when it comes to reinforcing good manners and respect, and I’m proud of their increasingly caring and courteous behavior.

Age four is loud, but it’s also fun and entertaining. Somehow my girls just don’t understand that they can get their point across without having to shout it. My ear is right there and it’s okay to speak, not shout. They’ll have a conversation with each other, but it gets very animated, and they can easily get carried away with their story. That’s one thing that AG is very good at – telling stories. She loves to tell fantastical tales, and even at bed time after I’ve read a book to her, she’ll then take the book and page through it and pretend to be reading the story herself. On the other hand, HJ loves to make us laugh – she’s our little clown and comedian. She loves to pull faces and act silly to get a reaction, and she especially loves to make her sister laugh. They both love putting on shows for us, whether it’s a puppet show or a ballet concert, they love the limelight and it’s very sweet to watch them plan the show and then act it out together.

One of AG and HJ’s favourite things to do is play with their Barbies and baby dolls. It’s been so sweet to watch and hear them play and let their imagination run wild. They’ve got all my old Barbies and, as you can imagine the poor dolls’ clothes were 30 years out of fashion, so recently I bought Barbie some new clothes and this was a huge hit – it was expensive but so worth every cent. They role play with Barbie going shopping, Barbie cooking, Barbie having a picnic and going to the beach, Barbie the doctor, Barbie the mommy, Barbie the teacher, and it’s lots of fun to play along with them – bringing back many fond memories for me of playing with these dolls, I can sit there for ages and act along with them. More recently, their cousin also passed on all her old hatchimal and pet pal collections and this has also been a huge hit, with the two of them sitting for hours on the carpet with these toys with their imagination running wild – I just love to listen to the chatter as they play – it’s too adorable!

The bond that has developed between my girls is the most precious thing to experience. They are always concerned about each other, always chatting to each other and never far apart from each other. They certainly do have their moments of friction, especially when they both want the same toy, but more often than not they’ll negotiate a settlement, or sometimes mommy or daddy will have to intervene, and then they get on with their game.

Every stage of parenting has its challenges, and age four certainly didn’t start out so great, but I can honestly say that the fours, overall, have been fabulous, and I can’t wait to see what the fives have in store for us.

Appreciating the beautiful nature around me

I’ve become quite snap happy lately as I’ve become more observant about the beauty that surrounds me. Living in Stellenbosch, we are truly blessed with beautiful surroundings and it’s easy to become so used to the views that we stop noticing. I’ve been enjoying taking pics lately, and instagram has also been quite fun to play around with the images. Here are a few of my recent works of art.

Hope you enjoy!

 

If you’d like to see more of my images, check out Some Beauty and Inspiration and Some More Beauty and Inspiration.

Happy blog-aversary to twinmumtales!

This week marks three years since I started twinmumtales!

It initially started as a means for this mommy, who was on the brink of going crazy, to get her thoughts and feelings out there when she had no one else to talk to. Those first few weeks and months of being home alone with twin babies can be a very lonely journey, and there were many days when I had no one to talk to, and to share my thoughts and fears with, and I turned to writing. I’ve been a professional writer and editor for years, so I’ve always enjoyed writing, but it’s always been so formal, so it’s been so fun to be creative for a change.

This whole experience has been so therapeutic and I’ve loved sharing our experiences of being twin parents, from the good, the bad and the ugly. It’s been fun engaging with my audience, sharing stories that I hope many other parents can relate to, and hearing back from my readers.

Writing has certainly helped me process this new and amazing journey of parenting. It’s been a wonderfully creative outlet, and I can’t wait to share more stories with you all as our family embarks on some new adventures in the not-too-distant future.

Get into the photos, mommy!

Looking back at my photos from the last few years, I’ve realized how rare it is to find one with me and both my girls together in one shot, or even any of me in general. There are hundreds, if not thousands, of photos of the girls, either on their own or together, but there are so few of us together, and even less of the girls with both IP and I as a family of four.

mommyandmeWhy are we always hiding, mommies? Is it deliberate that we don’t want to be seen in the picture? Are we shielding ourselves from the lens and we don’t want to be seen? Or, is it that we are so focused on our kids that we forget about ourselves? Are we not a part of their fun? Are we not involved in what they’re doing? Are we a participant or merely an observer in their lives?

Regardless of the reasons, this needs to change. I’ve decided that it’s time I got in front of the camera and stopped hiding behind it. My goal for this year is to get into more of the photos. It’s time to be a part of the fun, be involved and create more memories so the girls can see us together as a family.

Come on mommies, join me in this quest. Let’s show our children that we were right there living life with them, not behind the scenes. Don’t hide behind the camera, show yourself off! Be there, sit and pose right along with them. Dress up and be silly too. Put that bathing costume on and jump in the pool. Run around like a crazy person – laugh, love and live, and take the photos to prove it! Stop being an observer, and start being a participant! Make memories and give them something to look back on and remember you by.

Some more beauty and inspiration

I’ve been playing around with some more of our beautiful images and adding some of my favourite quotes or verses. I know it may seem a bit corny, but I have had fun doing this and I think I’ve mostly done this for myself as I’ve really needed some encouragement and inspiration through a tough few weeks and months, and I’ve just loved going through our old photos and enjoying all the memories they’ve brought back.

Hope you enjoy…

Matthew 6.34
Looking out over the Constantia Valley, Cape Town, South Africa
Romans 12 12
The Zen Pool at La Plantation d’Albion, Mauritius
Roosevelt quote
The beach at La Plantation d’Albion, Mauritius
Lifebeginsquote
Looking down over Camps Bay from Lion’s Head, Cape Town, South Africa

Some beauty and inspiration

IP and I have been to some really beautiful places in the world, and witnessed some amazing views and landscapes, many of them right here in our sunny South Africa.

I’ve recently enjoyed playing around with some of the beautiful images that we’ve captured over the years and paired them with some of my favourite inspirational quotes or verses.

Hope you enjoy what I’ve come up with.

 

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Looking out over Hout Bay, Cape Town, South Africa
Lettinggoquote
Canola fields near Napier, South Africa
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De Zalze Golf Course, Stellenbosch, South Africa
thousand miles
Constantia Nek, Cape Town, South Africa
Romans 12.2
Table Mountain from Stellenbosch, South Africa

I’ll be adding a few more in time. Hope you all have a wonderful day!